TRANSITIONING: A TALE OF MUTUAL MENTORING

For further evidence that many Boomers are not afraid to jump into the technology and new media world, we have the story of James R. Gaines, former top editor of Time and People magazines who joined FLYP in the summer of 2008 at age 61. FLYP is an online digital publication that combines text with Flash animation, motion graphics, streaming audio and video to do what he has always done - tell stories.

In his article in the New York Times "Preoccupations" column ( November 29, 2009), Jim Gaines talks about his mutual learning relationship with the staff of FLYP, several decades younger than he. Here are some of his thoughts about the age and experience gap.

*  Gaines figured the staff members, recently out of college, would be lucky to work with him and learn from his experience and achievements, but the opposite turned out to be true for him.

*  He feels lucky to be working with them, and they have been quite patient about helping him understand all the technology and software applications. "...I learn more than I teach most days, which is both humbling and thrilling," he wrote.

*  He is dealing with the paradox of wanting to be a colleague but knowing his role as boss: "to sustain, provide and sometimes to teach, but not necessarily be a friend." It's analogous to his role as parent at home. 

Gaines decided to ask his young staff members what they think of him and the distance between him and the staff. Some of the responses he got include:

*  "I don't ever think about Jim's age until someone in the office brings it up" (usually over some digital gaffe). 

*  "We're a small team where we can't get hung up on who is guiding who. New media isn't about who has the longest resume. It's about who has the best ideas and who can implement them the most creatively. That's something age can't really teach you."  [I comment here that this is at least partly true in many industries and fields.]

*  They are impressed with his enthusiasm, and it reinforces their excitement for what they are doing.

Gaines points out that his and their enthusiasms differ from each other. He remarks on how strongly the staff reacts to things - positively or negatively, what he sees as youthful extremes of emotion. But he is thrilled with the relationship. He concludes," The young people I work with now will be settlers of that [digital] frontier, and I can't think of anything I would rather do than help them get there."

This story illustrates an excellent example of mutual mentoring, where mentor and mentee roles shift back and forth as appropriate. It becomes a comfortable process that benefits both parties or a group.

It's one type of what I call "3rd Wave Mentoring." I will be presenting a webcast for the West LegalEdCenter on this new wave of mentoring (including mentoring circles and other networked approaches) on December 16th. Contact me at pwhaserot@pdcounsel.com for more information.

Phyllis Weiss Haserot      www.pdcounsel.com